Mood for Affogato

I contemplated blogging about two separate topics.  But I got either getting myself emotionally turned to some sort of something that I do not like, or it got fizzled off just because it does not matter anymore.

No matter, I am in the same rut today too... Or so it seems to be. 

An affogato would be nice.

Really nice.

The Sidecar of Life

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The school has reopened in the part of the continent.  And all three children of mine are officially off into real school from this year onward.  I have no idea if it makes me feel old.  I do not feel it so.  Just a sense of longing for the baby-ness that has gone with them growing up.  It is just that looking at other new, fresh smelling child makes me feel that that part of my life has pass.  

Changes in life is good.  So many are asking for more produce from me.  It is alright that I have decided so although babies are nice, but I am letting my husband be my baby now.  I can travel and date him without worrying about the kids when we do.  And that would be my copy paste answer to anyone asking.

During that first few years in life, I was breeding, packing, unloading, breastfeeding and cleaning.  I did not get to concentrate on me or the relationship in my marriage.  Like any other mother, you soon lose the factor of knowing what you like or even what you would like; and sex seems to fizzle out as you ironically spray breast milk all over when you have orgasm while doing it.

Having gone through the changes in my life, I feel that it is time for me to continue this quest of fulfilling self.  I do want to know what I like, what I want to discover, where I want to go, what I want to do.  And I want to experience all this with my spouse, whom would be on the one riding the motorcycle as I sit in the sidecar just discovering the open road.  Let me be free with my emotions and surprise myself (as well as he) with them each time.

I am open with him now.  Even when we squabble, I would answer now openly.  Somehow delighted that he responds to them and then we crack up in laughter; or the silent treatments that usually will not last long (unlike before).  I do not hold a grudge (or perhaps because I know God will show him to it.  Hahaha.  It has happened several times now) like how I used to.  And truthfully, it is easier to live life by letting the grudges just go.  

God put me through a year of it.  Many others go through years of it, perhaps most of their life.  This I know.  But I am thankful that He wanted to teach me lessons that I could not have learnt by myself, even by observation - Letting go.  Clearing my emotions.  To communicate what I emote.  To break down my walls.  To be free.  And most of all, to be thankful.  

Truly, I am thankful.

   

Recollecting Memories

I have been flooded by memories from the past. They come in nonchalantly and without warning leaving gaps of sweetness, hurt and sorrow all at the same time. Ear plugs were stuck into my head most of hours of the days in office with me singing quietly just to shut me out from the world today. Perhaps today was meant for self-reflection.

Tones reminds me of those times he worked months away from home. The utter sorrow and loneliness of his pierced through my ear and tears just flow drop after drop. How alone and away he was from where he used to be and to where he belonged.  Other sounds brought me back to rekindling and forgiving. And I began to remember conversations that were quirky enough to make me laugh.

The night after he actually asked my hand in marriage for the second time, I only courtesy called family with whom I had direct contact with throughout the divorce. For one, my mother's older sister who seems to find me amusing. I feel a sense of freedom to be amusing whenever I speak to her at this day and age as I grow older. 

I told her, if God deems so that it would take place, I would want to celebrate it. Putting aside what my mother and husband-to-be felt that the solemnization was more important worrying about what I wanted on the day before. "But of course I want to have my own bouquet of flowers and henna on my fingers. It does not matter the fact that there are family whom object to it openly, but it would be my wedding day and therefore I will make it my wedding day," I told her as she listened intently.

You see, the objection was strong enough that I was informed that I was no longer welcome into his family. And the quietness of this was to care sensitivity of them. But after all that has happened, I still deserve to celebrate on something that is happy for me.

So I told her, "And so, I will get the bouquet tomorrow and get my nail henna done the same. At this point of life I want to be in happy as I am in happy." She applauded me.

On Saturday morning, I found a beautiful head scarf by chance at my little single budget with a friend whom I met on a whim to do laundry with. Oh I heart her dearly. We had coffee and spoke briefly about our lives before we parted. Then on Sunday night while everyone was busy with their own things, I drove myself to some outskirt florist for a simple hand bouquet that I prayed not to be too much for the next day. And as everyone else lay sleeping, I painted my fingers red.

Dressed myself and brought my bouquet to the registrar's office. And I felt beautiful the entire time. When I announced that we were now husband and wife, the first thing that my aunt asked was to share a picture of my henna and hand bouquet. Again, she applauded.

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The mystery of this is that I did what I wanted to have and did not let other people's opinion hinder my spirit to celebrate that was rightful for me.

I think I did good. And I am glad I did what I did. I call it owning my own sense of ownership.

Hope Over Complacency

I am feeling complacent.  Not liking this new me.  With reluctance for problem solving where instead finding it hard to segregate my own emotions for the goodness of the teamwork which is almost non-existent here at this point of time.  More like, what is expected of you but with no proper instruction, monitoring and execution.  

Jolting self to wake up and decide what I want to be today.  I told myself that it would be a day where I would enjoy my day at work.  It is no question that I enjoy working.  Something that I have managed to forget during my 4 months here.  How wrong can that be?

Then again, mistakes are found in my work and so I am upset with myself.  Just because I do not receive to many of work and just decided to halt so many other things mid-way.  So like the rest of team.  

But I know I am not at their level of IQ and EQ.  

I need to have that part of me back.

What matters is what I am able to fix.  That would be the kind of my achievements and self-satisfaction.

Let us just see how this goes...

The Drama of an Old Man

I pretended to be busy today.  Gnawing through the computer and rustling through files like what I did actually matter.  I do not really give a damn.  But I had to do something to get me alert for last night's sleep quality was poor.  

Perhaps being laid-back can be a good thing.  But not so much of a good thing to practice too often at work, especially when it comes to execution.  Simply today, when getting everyone into the meeting room at a stipulated time became a task when all involved gave this face that does not mean anything. It only manages to spell back 'you are invisible' to you.  Fine.  But has it got to be the same from the top too?

Logically when you do business providing services, you should keep a tab on people paying you.  So, how can it be hard when you are asked to do just that?  Being cynical that does not mean anything by throwing out words that a 10 year old would.  I am sorry.  But I do not get that.  I seriously do not get the fact that you are that old and could slump, throw a fit at the meeting table going, "May as well change this department's name into Finance", "We are department A, doing Finance's job (snorts)", "It is department B's job".  Oh come on you poor old soul.  

Truth be told, I felt like slapping his head one time.  

Even then suddenly I blurted out, "It is not so bad," for just helping to remind your customer to pay up for what you have given.  And this person went, "Sorry?  What was that you were saying? Again?" for all any possible drama where he continued with, "I never said it was bad.  I never mentioned the word bad whatsoever..." and the drama ensues.

I do not understand a single bit of it and his calculative ways.

If only he could see where he is losing out.  Where his actions to not do it will cause no income for the company, especially when the customers see that we do not care about it.